Reclaim & Rise™
Recovery coaching for women ready to heal and rebuild their lives.
Because healing isn’t the end—it’s where you begin to rise.
Reclaim & Rise™ is my signature 1:1 coaching experience for women breaking free from abusive and controlling relationships. This isn’t just about surviving — it’s about reclaiming your power, rebuilding your life, and rising into the woman you were always meant to be.
Why Choose Reclaim & Rise™?
Proven Strategies:
A step-by-step roadmap to break the trauma bond for good, fully customized to your unique situation, life, background, and needs.
Personalized Support:
Trauma-informed coaching that helps your body feel safe again, using somatic practices and education about how trauma bonds work.
Practical Steps:
Here, we focus on creating the life you truly want after abuse. Together, we'll work on what feels most important to you right now — whether that's finding your daily routines, healing emotionally, or dreaming about your future again.
Community Support:
Plus, you'll have access to the Trauma Bond Recovery Circles — a space to connect with other women who truly understand your journey.
Client Transformations:
What Happens When You Reclaim & Rise™?
You Heal the Trauma Bond
You break the cycle that keeps you spinning between chaos and false hope, confusion and heartbreak. Instead, you learn to trust yourself again and build a loving, stable relationship with yourself.
You'll Regain Clarity Again
Through processing and integrating your experiences, you slowly regain clarity and a sense of calm. Over time, you discover that your own life, your own wellbeing, has become your priority again.
Build a Life That’s Fully Yours:
Empowered, confident and rooted in autonomy.
This is What You Receive:
Tailored 1:1 Coaching:
Personalized weekly or bi-weekly online sessions focused on breaking the trauma bond, rebuilding your life and self-worth, and reclaiming autonomy.
Exclusive Recovery Resources
Worksheets, reflective journal prompts, somatic exercises, and practical guidance to deepen your healing and rebuild your life between sessions.
Access to Community:
Optional monthly Trauma Bond Recovery Circles for shared connection and community support.
Femke Valerie
My Proven Trauma Bond Recovery Roadmap™
Phase 1: Awareness
You can’t heal from what you don’t understand. The first step is recognizing that what you experienced wasn’t just “relationship struggles” but abuse. I help you identify coercive control, manipulation, and abuse tactics — so you can break through self-doubt, see the truth clearly, and begin reclaiming your reality.
Phase 2: Detachment
Leaving isn’t just about walking away — it’s about breaking free emotionally, mentally, and physically. I help you untangle the trauma bond, deal with hoovering and guilt-tripping from your abuser, and create a safety plan. This phase is about taking back control over safety, well-being, and your future.
Phase 3: Recovery
Abuse doesn’t always end when the relationship does. Many survivors face post-separation abuse, smear campaigns, and legal threats: I help you to navigate this. I support you in healing from rumination, self-blame, and the urge to reach out — so you can focus on rebuilding self-worth and emotional stability.
Phase 4: Rebuilding
Who are you beyond living in survival mode? This phase is about rediscovering yourself, your values, and your dreams. Together, we work on breaking free from patriarchal conditioning, setting healthy relationship standards, and creating a life that reflects your whole Self — not who your abuser conditioned you to be.
Phase 5: Thriving Again
Healing isn’t the final destination — feeling fully alive again is. This phase is about setting boundaries without guilt, and turning trauma into post-traumatic growth. Whether in career, relationships, or personal growth, you’ll move beyond surviving and step into a new chapter of your life.
This Is for You if:
You’re Still Stuck in the Trauma Bond
And no matter how much you know this person is harming you, you keep feeling stuck into rumination, cognitive dissonance, shame, blame, or overthinking what happened.
You’ve Left the Relationship
But you still find yourself ruminating, doubting yourself, or feeling unsafe and unworthy — like you’ll never get your life, confidence, or self-worth back.
You’re Done with Victim-Blaming
That frames abuse as something you “attracted.” Instead, you want real, abuse-informed support rooted in a feminist, trauma-informed, and intersectional lens.
You’re Ready for a Clear Roadmap
That guides you through recovery with practical tools, nervous system healing, and judgment-free support from an expert who understands what you’ve been through.
You're Ready to Reclaim & Rise™
Your life, your autonomy, your self-worth, and finally feel like YOU again✨
the rebuild journey
A 4-Month Journey to Heal & Rebuild Your Life
8 x Reclaim & Rise™ Private Coaching Sessions
Customized Trauma Bond Recovery Roadmap™ & Resources Tailored to You
4 Months of Access to the Trauma Bond Recovery Circle for Women
Heal & Rebuild Your Life
The Full journey
A 6-Month Journey to Heal, Reclaim & Rise Again
12 x Reclaim & Rise™ Private Coaching Sessions
Everything from the Rebuild Journey + Private Text & Voice Note Access in Between Sessions for Extra Support
6 Months of Access to the Trauma Bond Recovery Circle for Women
For a Total Transformation
the rebuild journey
A 4-Month Journey to Heal & Rebuild Your Life
8 x Reclaim & Rise™ Private Coaching Sessions
Customized Trauma Bond Recovery Roadmap™ & Resources Tailored to You
4 Months of Access to the Trauma Bond Recovery Circle for Women
Heal & Rebuild Your Life
The Full journey
A 6-Month Journey to Heal, Reclaim & Rise Again
12 x Reclaim & Rise™ Private Coaching Sessions
Everything from the Rebuild Journey + Private Text & Voice Note Access in Between Sessions for Extra Support
6 Months of Access to the Trauma Bond Recovery Circle for Women
For a Total Transformation
the rebuild journey
A 4-Month Journey to Heal & Rebuild Your Life
8 x Reclaim & Rise™ Private Coaching Sessions
Customized Trauma Bond Recovery Roadmap™ & Resources Tailored to You
4 Months of Access to the Trauma Bond Recovery Circle for Women
Heal & Rebuild Your Life
The Full journey
A 6-Month Journey to Heal, Reclaim & Rise Again
12 x Reclaim & Rise™ Private Coaching Sessions
Everything from the Rebuild Journey + Private Text & Voice Note Access in Between Sessions for Extra Support
6 Months of Access to the Trauma Bond Recovery Circle for Women
For a Total Transformation
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FAQ
Frequently Asked Q's
Which Reclaim & Rise™ package is right for me?
- Package 1: Reclaim & Rise™: The Rebuild Journey
This 4-month abuse recovery coaching journey with 8 individual sessions is for women who are ready to break the trauma bond for good and rebuild their self-worth in a sustainable, embodied way.
We’ll focus on deeper healing, nervous system safety, reclaiming your identity, and creating new patterns that support your healing and autonomy.
Includes 4 months of access to the Trauma Bond Recovery Circle™, so you continue to feel supported by other women too.
- Package 2: Reclaim & Rise™: The Full Journey
This 6-month abuse recovery coaching experience with 12 individual sessions AND voice/text support in between is for women who are ready to go all-in on their healing and transformation.
You’ll receive the deepest level of support, accountability, and personalized guidance — plus private voice and text access to me between sessions for real-time coaching and nervous system support.
This is for you if you’re committed to breaking the cycle for good, rebuilding your life, and reclaiming your power on every level.
Includes 6 months of access to the Trauma Bond Recovery Circle™, alongside 1:1 support across every phase of your recovery.
Not sure which package is right for you?
You’re warmly invited to schedule a free 30-minute Discovery Call with me. This is a no-pressure space to explore where you are on your healing journey, get your questions answered, and see which path inside Reclaim & Rise™ feels just right for you.
What is the difference between this and therapy?
Therapy can be life-changing — but it’s not always enough to heal from an abusive relationship on an embodied level.
Not all therapists are trained in understanding coercive control, trauma bonds, or post-separation abuse. Many still operate within patriarchal frameworks that can leave survivors feeling pathologized or dismissed.
I’m not here to diagnose you as “co-dependent” or gaslight you into “taking responsibility” for what happened, because violence against women is deeply systemic.
My approach is trauma-informed, grounded in Polyvagal Theory and an in-depth understanding of abusive relationship dynamics, all through an intersectional lens.
This means I recognize that abuse and systemic oppression don’t impact all women equally — whether through race, class, gender identity, or sexual orientation.
In my sessions, we can address both the personal and collective dimensions of trauma, abuse, exploitation, healing, and liberation.
Most of all, as a trained professional and survivor myself, I’m here to help you feel safe, seen, and understood.
Together, we’ll work through what happened to you and begin to rebuild your life — using my Trauma Bond Recovery Roadmap™ to guide each step.
What if I’m still in contact with my ex? or i just got hoovered back?
You’re not alone. Many women are still dealing with contact — whether because of co-parenting, legal or financial issues, practical aspects like housing, or to manipulation.
This coaching is designed for exactly that: helping you untangle the confusion and develop a strategy to move forward.
Whether you’ve just gone No Contact or are afraid of getting pulled back into the relationship, I’m here to walk alongside you with personal support.
What if I’m still experiencing post-separation abuse?
Post-separation abuse is hard — and it’s often the hardest phase because you’re still under threat and trying to heal.
In Rise and Reclaim™, we’ll focus on building safety (internally and externally) and developing a strategy to deal with ongoing harassment or legal abuse.
You deserve support that understands the risks and empowers you to reclaim your life.
are the sessions and this program online?
Yes! The entire Reclaim & Rise™ coaching program is delivered 100% online. This includes your private 1:1 coaching sessions, access to the Trauma Bond Recovery Circle™, and — for those enrolled in the Full Journey — private voice and text support between sessions.
All private sessions are held via Zoom, in a safe and confidential space where you can work with me from anywhere in the world.
After booking your package, you’ll receive an email with your intake form and a scheduling link to book your sessions at times that work best for you.
Whether you’re joining from Europe, the US, or anywhere else, as long as you have a stable internet connection and a quiet, private space, you’re warmly invited to join this space.
How are the sessions structured?
The sessions:
Each online session is 75 minutes, fully personalized, and guided by my Trauma Bond Recovery Roadmap™.
We’ll start by identifying where you are in your recovery, then focus on what you need most — whether that’s detaching from the trauma bond, healing your nervous system, or rebuilding your life.
You’ll leave every session with clarity, practical tools, and a clear next step.
Between sessions:
Between sessions, you’ll have access to custom resources to keep you moving forward. Whether this includes somatic practices, journal prompts, or support in navigating practical challenges, such as post-separation abuse.
Scheduling:
You can schedule the sessions at your own pace, depending on your needs and where you are in your journey.
In the 4-month Rebuild Journey, you’ll have 8 sessions to schedule at your own pace, based on your needs. In the 6-month Full Journey, this includes 12 sessions that you can spread out however feels right for you.
Most of my clients start with the first 2–3 sessions weekly, then move to biweekly or every 3 weeks or so. We’ll stay in close communication, and your needs will always lead the way.
If something comes up and you need another session sooner, you’re welcome to schedule it based on what you need in the moment.
What are your credentials and expertise?
I’m a Certified Narcissistic Abuse Specialist, Recovery Coach, and Trauma-Informed Facilitator for women.
My work is rooted in Polyvagal Theory by Dr. Stephen Porges, which focuses on feeling safe again, especially after trauma.
It is also grounded in the latest research on Intimate Partner Violence (IPV), coercive control, and gender-based violence — particularly the ways in which abuse disproportionately impacts women and girls worldwide.
I use frameworks such as the Power and Control Wheel and uphold a feminist, intersectional lens. That means: no victim-blaming, spiritual bypassing, or pathologizing every survivor as “co-dependent.”
Instead of reducing abuse to “something you attracted,” I help you understand how abusers operate from power and control, and how to reclaim your autonomy.
And perhaps most importantly: I’ve been where you are.
My mission is to offer what I believe truly supports survivors: a trauma-informed and abuse-informed space. Above all, a space that is safe, compassionate, and judgment-free.
What if I can't afford to join?
I hear you. As a Trauma-Informed Facilitator, I believe that healing should be accessible to everyone — especially for women impacted by abuse, financial challenges, or systemic oppression.
Since this is one of my my signature 1:1 programs, the price reflects the depth and personal attention this work requires. It also allows me to offer this work in a sustainable way.
At the same time, I’m deeply aware that this offering may not be financially accessible to everyone.
That’s why I offer two Sovereign Woman Scholarships each quarter for my 1:1 signature programs, including Reclaim & Rise.
These are especially intended for those with limited access to healing spaces — including those who face financial hardship or marginalization based on race or gender identity.
You’re also welcome to join the Trauma Bond Recovery Circle for Women for €35 per session (or 3 sessions at a reduced rate).
What if I have more questions?
You’re always welcome to reach out to me personally via email at info@femkevalerie.com, or you can schedule a free Discovery Call.
During this call, I’ll gladly answer your questions, walk you through the options, and we’ll explore whether working together feels like a good fit.
Book a Free Discovery Call
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Imagine This...
Six months from now, you’re no longer questioning your worth. The constant rumination has finally quieted. You feel safe in your own body, clear in your mind, and anchored in your power. You trust yourself on a level you didn’t believe was possible.
You’re no longer trapped in the cycle of abuse — you’ve broken it for good. You’re choosing peace over chaos and rebuilding a life that’s fully yours.
You’ve reclaimed your voice, your worth, your future. And it shows.
In the way you move, the way you speak, and the way you live. Your boundaries are clear. You recognize manipulation the moment it appears, and you distance yourself without guilt. You surround yourself with people who see you and respect you. Your relationships feel safer, deeper, and aligned with who you are now.
Maybe you’ve stepped into new opportunities — a career, building your own business, or simply enjoying life again — something that once felt impossible. You lead your life with clarity, confidence, and sovereignty.
This is the work we do together.
Abuse made you feel like you were broken. Yet there’s a path forward for you to reclaim your life — your wholeness again. You were never broken and you don’t have to do this alone. You never did.